“I don’t need to be in a relationship!” “I’m fine on my own…”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “I don’t need a partner to validate my existence!”⠀ These are the stories we occasionally tell ourselves, hoping for these incarnations to take root in our reality and guard our hearts from the sting of solitude. How superhuman it would feel not to yearn or ache, to place an impenetrable shield between the world and our emotions! How empowering it may seem to give the bird to our romantically bereft circumstance, as if to say - Cupid, I don’t need your arrow, I’m perfect on my own! 😤⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But why are we so scared to admit that we secretly wish for love? Why do we work so hard to mask this feeling? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do we feel so modest or destructible by the magnitude of this ache that we think merely voicing it into the void will label us as ‘less than’ or worse, as ‘losers’? When, in fact, a loving union is our collective medicine. And CONJURING this desire ignites the very force that attracts a loving, loyal partner to our world.⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Susan Sontag said, “I have to get over the idea that the value of love rises as the self dwindles”.
We are built up MORE through wanting love, not reduced to less. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀ Rainer Maria Rilke also beautifully explains that “to love is not about merging. It is a noble calling for the individual to ripen, to differentiate, to become a world in oneself in response to another. It is a great, immodest call that singles out a person and summons them beyond all boundaries.”⠀⠀⠀
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In my experience, being courageous to admit that my heart was longing for a partner served as the clarion call to attracting my own lobster. If we were to pull off the bandaid of our indifference and OWN that most tender of our needs, then perhaps our desire for a love will only amplify the virtue of our inner self. What if, instead, we declare to the Universe, “I’m ready and willing to give love a go”! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Have you felt a resonance with this? Would love your thoughts.
A 💎